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Covid-19 / Corona Virus - Important Information
This current global pandemic is affecting all of us, and the swinging community must also behave responsibly and do all we can to stop this virus as soon as possible. This includes NO physical meetings with other swingers (obviously !).
You can still use SDC and Fab for video chats (on SDC go to "Chatroom" and pick your country), you can improve and update your profile & pictures, and you can also use this time to start conversations with other members so you can meet them in the future.
This is the time to stay at home and enjoy your partner, strengthen your bond with them even more, and enjoy your toys ! Once we are on the other side of this, there will be a lot of horny people ready to party & release some of that tension !
Stay healthy everybody, stay safe, and let´s all give a big thank you to all those brave people that are doing their best to protect us all.
Big virtual kisses,
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Jump to these sections
- Top of page
- Benefits of joining SDC
- Why listen to us ?
- I am worried about…
- What other experts say about SDC
- Prices for SDC membership
- Why have FULL membership
- What to do now ?
- In-depth guide – home page
- In-depth guide – connect section
- In-depth guide – explore section
- In-depth guide – trial vs full membership
- The swinging blog
THE BENEFITS OF JOINING SDC SWING
We could give you hundreds of reasons for joining the SDC swinging website as a full member, but these are the main three reasons that should interest you. If you need more information then there is a lot more to tell you, but think about these three to start with.
Get laid more often
Meet up with other couples (or singles) who enjoy a great sex life and are also happy to share ! Find the perfect people for you to meet – appearance, sexual interests, kinks, etc. Remember… sex is good for your health !
Have more fun
The benefits also include having a much more active sex life, discovering new tips and techniques, & the ability to dip your toe in the water and see how you feel.
Go as far as you want and as fast as you want. Swingers are discreet so nobody outside the community needs to know how much you enjoy this lifestyle.
If your partner says they were flirted with at work, you just smile and enjoy the fact that people find them desirable – you are safe and secure in your relationship.
SDC at a Glance
SDC appeals to couples, single women and single men. The vast majority of members are couples.
Over 3 million members, majority in USA, Netherlands, and English speaking Europe.
A free 20 day trial allows you to play with 95% of the SDC website so you can decide if SDC is the swingers site that suits you.
When compared to many swingers websites, SDC has very few fake profiles, and the site managers take active steps to keep the membership genuine and well-behaved.
Our experience is that SDC has a more sophisticated & more international membership base, and people actually turn up when they say they will & also they look like their pictures ! Not something that happens on all dating websites.
You can contact other SDC members directly during your trial period.
Navigating round the site is not the easiest – there are lots of menu options and it takes a little getting used to.
There is a great SDC mobile APP that you can use on your swinger vacations, or just when you are out & about. It also shows you who is nearby !
SDC is more than just a swingers dating site. It also has lots of advice on how to swing, sexual health, travel, education, LGBTQ+, and much more.
WHY LISTEN TO US ?
THE STORY OF METIMEYOUTIME
We are a group of libertines that know the sophisticated swinging world. So we are here to help, from the inside out !
Whether it is via a treat to tickle your g spots, visiting a sexy club, joining a swinging community, or going on a tantalising holiday – we are in a great position to be able to guide you in the ´lifestyle´. We can help you with everything from dipping your toe in the water to satisfying your fullest of fantasies !
We have created a website that is for swingers, and is written by swingers. You will read honest, accurate, useful advice on a whole range of sexy topics that are relevant to swingers. The first step is to join the community, and SDC com is the global leader in allowing people to meet other swingers and fulfil their fantasies (There are SDC swingers in USA, UK, all of Europe, and everywhere else !).
the MeTimeYouTime team
I am worried about…
Will i get found out ?
Don´t show your face on the SDC main albums – there are private password-protected albums that you can choose who you show them too.
what if i meet somebody i know ?
Everybody worries about this one – very rarely actually happens, but it becomes your little joint secret. Remember, they are on SDC Swing for the same reasons as you !
I´m a newbie, how does it all work ?
Our website gives you tons of information to get you started – and many members of SDC are happy to offer help and advice – we were all new once !
How do I start swinging ?
We have a blog post HERE that talks about baby steps, different types of meetings, and above all the importance of communication with your partner.
Will it ruin my relationship ?
Swinging tends to make strong relationships even stronger & people are even happier once they start swinging. But don´t look at swinging as a solution for reviving a poor relationship – fix the relationship & after that think about swinging !
What about STD´s ?
Swingers are very aware of the risks and take great care to use condoms and get regular sexual health checks. Studies showed that swingers have less STD´s then the general population !
Do I have to have sex, even if I don´t want to ?
Swinging rule number 1 – ” NO means NO “. Anybody can stop anything at anytime they are not comfortable – no reasons or explanations are necessary. This is a voluntary hobby and you do what you want, when you want, and with whom you want.
DON´T JUST TAKE OUR WORD FOR IT…
THIS IS WHAT EXPERTS ARE SAYING ABOUT SDC (Swingers Dating Community)
It’s made by swingers for swingers.
Established in 1999, they have been since then the number one provider of pleasure, fun, and excitement to couples and single people.
It gives you the chance to experience your deepest and wildest sexual desires.
There is also a high level of regulation and security, so you can enjoy your erotic experiences in a safe setting and on a secure website.
FULL MEMBERSHIP PRICES FOR SDC
( INCLUDES A 20 DAY FREE TRIAL )
1 month Full Membership £17.95 ( $24.95 )
3 months Full Membership £12.32 /mth ( $16.65 ) *BESTVALUE*
“3 months ( plus your free extra 3 months) gives you enough time to really make the most of SDC and try out the swinging lifestyle. Time goes quickly and you will be learning a lot at the beginning – so the 3 month membership has a good price and is a good length of time”…. MTYT
Paid as one payment of £36.95 ( or $49.95 )
6 months Full Membership £9.49 /mth ( $13.33 )
Paid as one payment of £56.95 ( or $79.95 )
12 months Full Membership £7.25 /mth ( $10.00 )
Paid as one payment of £86.95 (or $119.95 )
Lifetime Full Membership £199.95 ( $250 )
Pay £199.95 once ($250) & never pay a penny ever again !
2 cups of coffee a month... or... unlimited sex ???
Full membership of SDC costs from £7.25 per month – about the cost of two coffees from Starbucks. Which treat would give you more pleasure ?
(If the coffee is the bigger turn on… then you may be on the wrong website!)
“DOUBLE TIME” OFFER !
If you sign up for the 20 day trial period, look out for an email from SDC offering you a “double time” bonus.
This bonus means that if you pay for one month, you will get another month of full membership absolutely free. The same goes for 3 months – buy 3 months and get 3 more months free … all the way up to 12 months ! Just click on the link and the time is doubled as soon as your payment is made.
THIS IS A ONCE IN A LIFETIME OFFER – TAKE ADVANTAGE OF IT.
Why is FULL membership important ?
Yes, we know that you can have a trial membership for 20 days, but our advice is to only use the trial membership to have a peek inside SDC and see if the sort of members that you want to meet are genuinely inside SDC.
With a trial membership you are at the party but you are only looking in through the window through the net curtains. If you like what you see through the window and you want to come in & see more, then you need to be a full member to join the party.
SDC swinging members in USA, UK, & Europe think that full membership is worth it.
Do you want to wonder if they are right, or are you going to try it for yourself ?
Use the trial membership to confirm that you want to be part of the swingers world. Then join it properly !
Be ACTIVE, not passive
As a full member, you are in control and you can contact who you want and enjoy seeking out the members that interest you. The people that are active and seek out other members are always more successful than those that sit back and wait for something to happen.
Be seen by ALL members
Full members can see all members and all photos, and they also get seen by all other full members. Many of the full members have chosen to not allow trial members to see their profiles. Discretion is important and trial members can only see the first image of everyone´s profile.
Gain CREDIBILITY as a full member
As a full member, you are treated as part of the community by the other full members. It shows you are serious about wanting to particpate in the lifestyle and that is regarded as a very important thing. SDC is also about trust, and full members often feel that trial members have not earned that trust yet.
Be more SUCCESSFUL
Just like in regular dating, the more brave you are the more successful you are – it helps if you make contact with others. But trial members cannot contact full members & must wait to be contacted. (You can reply if they contact you first, but unless you look like Mr & Mrs Clooney then good luck with that one !)
1. Trial Membership
Join SDC as a trial member and fill in your basic details – it takes less than 5 minutes. Have a quick look around SDC and look for full members that interest you.
2. Read our free step-by-step guide
We will email you our free SDC guide. It will help you to create an amazing & appealing profile so you can be successful in the SDC world and you can prepare for your first meet-up.
3. Become a full member
Check your email daily to get the “double time” bonus offer – it is only valid for a few days ! Set up your profile as fast as possible – everybody loves to look at the new full members
4. Embrace the lifestyle
Contact people, arrange meetings, book parties, check out who is waiting for you in your holiday destination. Have fun !!!
When you join SDC as a free member, we will send you our FREE GUIDE to help you fill in your profile. This will help you get the most out of SDC so you can start your journey into the sexy world of swinging.
The in-depth guide to SDC.com
The SDC Home Page
The 9 sections on the SDC .com swingers lifestyle site.
GROUP – jumps straight in at the deep end with articles on gangbangs, group sex and polyamory
SEX – oral, anal and everywhere in between
KINK – the BDSM world, cuckolds, and fetishes
EROTIC – foreplay, massage , and toys
LGBTQ+ -(that´s all the letters for now…) – bi, gay, lesbian, and trans articles
RELATIONSHIP – lovers, open relationships
HEALTH – erectile dysfunction, sexual health
TRAVEL – SDC is now heavily involved in the cruise market offering cruises to Cuba, Crete, the Med, etc. It also does hotel takeovers in Ibiza, Cap d´Agde, etc
MORE – anything that doesn´t fit elsewhere !
This stuff is all nice and interesting but probably not why you are looking at a post all about SDC !
Is there more ?
The good parts are all hidden inside the site once you login (thankfully, as privacy & discretion is obviously important !)
You can open an account here and if you use the promo code of 31732 then only we can see when you have joined. So we will say hello to you, and make sure your profile is looking good.
Once you are inside, the fun can start !!
The SDC Connect Section
The connect section is for emails, messenger, swingers chat, etc
We all know what a mailbox is, we hope ! You will get a mixture of emails directly sent to you, notifications about people travelling to your area, new people on guest lists of parties that you are going to, etc. You can set all the notifications to see less, or more, if it gets too much. You can also create 5 different folders to move emails into for easy storage & retrieval.
Not used much, but you can message people directly using this.
See people you have become ´friends´ with, or you have ´liked´, or they have ´liked´ you, or who you have marked as ´no interest´, or have blocked (or been blocked by !).
Many groups have been created catering to specific interests, niches, clubs, towns, etc. You apply to join and then you will receive notifications when anything is happening in your group. Groups include Cap d´Agde, Cuckolds, Over 40´s, Harley Davidsons, etc, etc – there are hundreds of them.
5. Viewed me
One of the most used parts of the site ! Who has looked at me ??? You can hide that you have looked at somebodies profile (in the Privacy section of settings) but generally we all love to see who has been looking at us.
Every member has their own profile. It´s where you put your public photos (not really public, only for members of SDC to see !), your vital stats, your likes & dislikes, videos, and a few paragraphs about what makes you tick. This is vital to get right because it is all that people have to go on to decide if they want to get in touch. We have written a blog post on how to write the perfect SDC profile – it´s a slightly OTT title because the perfect profile for one person may be exactly what another person hates. But we have tried to address the points that really don´t work for most people, and also what most people really respond well to.
Your profile is pretty much like your CV, only naughtier ! It will also show who your SDC friends are, your validations from other members, your location, what you are looking for, and also you can have password protected private photo albums to keep your face photos hidden from everybody except those you want to grant access to.
The SDC Explore Section
This is going to be the main part of the site that you will use to see who is out there, what they are doing, and where they are.
1. Who is online
This will show you the main photo of each couple / person that is online (remember that some people leave SDC open in the background so they may technically be online, but they aren´t looking at it right now). As with most windows, you can narrow the search down to include (or exclude) couples, single females, and single men. And you can also see who has a birthday today (it may be a real birthday or just an ´SDC´ birthday !), or see who has signed up for speed dating.
2. Search feature
A huge page that allows you to find the right people for you. Search according to their username (handy if you meet in a club and you can read all about them afterwards), couple / single, if they have profile pictures or videos, if they are a trial / full member, if they have validations from other members, ages of each person (from…to…), smoker or non smoker, location (and a maximum distance from that point), languages spoken, race, etc, etc, etc. Pop in all the criteria that you like / don´t like, and you are presented with all the profiles of the lovely people that match your desires.
3. What is Laidar ?
A terrible pun by SDC on the gaydar joke, but it shows who is near you (well within the nearest mile or so) right now ! You can zoom in & out and see the profiles of everybody.
4. Speed dating
You can see who has put up a notice saying they are looking to meet up with somebody in the next 2 weeks. Often used last minute by people that suddenly feel horny & want to meet up, or people that find they have an empty house & want to make the most of it. You can look to see who is out there looking, or you can post a speed date yourself. Click on the options at the top to search by couple / male / female , date, distance, etc.
5. How to use the SDC travel calendar
This will show you all the people coming to your area. Find your location on the map (searchable), click, on the numbers (200 on London means 200 people visiting), pick a date, and you get the mini profiles of all people that fit the criteria.
You can also add your own travel plans on this page & when you do that, you can also see who else is going to your destination at the same time as you.
This allows you to start getting in touch with people before you get to your destination.
6. SDC Blogs
A chatty blog for members to discuss, argue, complain about the latest version of SDC, etc, etc. Mainly used by about 10 members and looked at by many others who are probably reluctant to raise their heads above the trenches !
7. How to see new members on SDC... Seek, Discover, Create
A gallery shows all of the members that joined recently – arranged by distance.
You can guess what this is ! A gallery of videos posted by members- arranged by distance. Don´t expect Stephen Spielberg type epics – but people are doing their best to share some fun stuff !
9. Sexy Photo Contest
The ‘contest’ section is where SDC often hold photo contest on the go – Sexiest Halloween, Naughty Santa´s, etc. You can see the best on here and also submit your own efforts.
10. Parties and Clubs
This is split into public parties, private parties, and clubs. The public parties are mostly parties held in established swingers clubs and you can see the guest lists of people that have put their name down.
Bear in mind that generally nobody has paid any deposit so they may not actually turn up. But it gives you guide to the sort of people that a certain night in a certain club will attract.
11. Private parties
Private parties are where a person is holding a private party and is looking for more guests to ensure it goes with a bang – it might be a hotel suite, their house, etc – contact them and they will let you know if you are a good fit for what they are looking for.
Choose this option and you are taken you out into the main travel area of the website. SDC has, over the past 2 years, become more and more about travel events (cruises, hotel take-overs, etc). So they now have a separate of the site dedicated to that subject alone !
This allows you to see all the validations left on the site, but you can also choose to see the far more interesting ones that have been written about you or written by you on other people. In the past, validations were used just to say a person was real, but now they are used a lot to give a small summary of how the meeting went. Bear in mind that these tend to be 100% positive because you get the chance to approve any review made about you before it is published !! Some people choose to hide some reviews, or hide all their reviews.
14. SDC benefits
Apart from the A big fat page full of discount coupons and codes for all sorts of toys, clothing, etc. Things like free drinks, discount to get into places ( e.g.half price membership to a club for the year), % off clubwear. These benefits are only available to fully paid members !
The me time you time team have also kept an eye out for any interesting discounts & vouchers for products, hotels, etc on our page imaginatively titled “discounts and vouchers“
The benefits of being an SDC member
Below is the full list of what you can (and cannot) access as a trial member and as a full member.
|Trial Members||Full Members|
|Contact other members*||during trial period only||yes|
|Update or change your profile||during trial period only||yes|
|Webcam chat room||read only||yes|
|Validate members||receive only||yes|
|See all profiles / pictures*||first picture only||yes|
|Add yourself to party guest list**||yes||yes|
|Join SDC communities||yes||yes|
|Use the Instant Messenger||receive IM only||yes|
|Add travel plans to the Travel calendar||yes||yes|
|Use the Invitation program||yes||yes|
|Add yourself to the photo spotlight||yes||yes|
|Add yourself to the video spotlight||yes||yes|
|Add your photo to the SDC login page||yes||yes|
|Post in the Swingers blogs||read only||yes|
|Offer your service to other members||read only||yes|
|Add a second profile location||yes||yes|
|Post Parties (after approval)||yes||yes|
*Due to members individual settings, some options may be restricted
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4. Start with baby steps !
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