The Insiders Guide to SDC

how to use SDC and how to complete your profile

Part 3 

saying hello, travelling with SDC, speed dating, & parties

5. Different ways to say ´Hello !´on SDC

 

1. I looked at your profile… ssshhhh
This is the mildest of little nudges, winks, raised eyebrows, etc. If you have set your profile to tell people that you have looked at their profiles (settings / privacy), then they will see on their Viewed Me tab (in the Contact section on the left side of the screen) that you looked at their profile. Many people will have a quick return look at the profile of people who have looked at them.

2. Remembered
If you mark a profile with the ´remembered´ button then they will receive a notification that you remembered them. It won´t tell them if you simply marked them as remembered so that you can show your partner later, or that you remembered them to send a little hello their way.

3. Like
Now we are getting somewhere. You are not declaring your undying love but just saying you like their profile. Some people use this just to show their appreciation for a beautiful set of images or for a well written or funny profile – your like might come from 5000 miles away in Rio, but they still liked what they saw. But generally a like is a significant interest from somebody and if you look at their profile & hit the ´like´ button on their profile, you will both get a message saying that ´you have a Like match´ and encouraging you to write a message to say hello.

4. Mail
Either you saw a profile that you really like, or you had a ´like match´ and were encouraged to write, or you are just feeling confident and proud of your new profile… whatever the reason a well written email always brings a smile to the face of the recipient. Make it personal, make it interesting, make it respectful and hopefully you will get a lovely reply. You can see if somebody had read your mail if you go to Options (from within the mail section) and pick Sent Mail History. But don´t be dismayed if they read it and you hear nothing. Some people can take their time replying – they may just be leading a busy life.  In any case, take that as a no for now & move on. Opinions are split on SDC – some people feel you should always answer, even if it is a no, with a polite thanks but no thanks. Others feel that an uninvited email is like junk mail and there is no need to answer at all. Either way, if they were interested they would have replied … so it´s time to move on.

VERY IMPORTANT… Read their profile… carefully !
If they do not want to hear from single men and you are a single man, then don´t bother irritating them with an uninvited email. If they only like black guys and you are white, same thing. If they… you get the picture ! Read their profile carefully and from top to bottom – a common complaint is that a lot of people don´t read the profile, they just look at the images, and then write a crude, one line message offering to “sort out your wife” ! Have a guess how far that usually gets them…

6. Travel plans – yours, and other people´s

 

The travel section of SDC is widely used and it´s one of the main features that makes SDC stand out from the more ´domestic´ websites that serve their home countries ( like Fabswingers in the UK, Body Contact in Sweden, etc). Firstly we will look at people who are coming to your own area.

1. Inbound travellers (coming to a town near you…)

In your inbox, you will receive a notifications titled, for example, ´Travel Plans on Dates 15 May to 20 May´ and a picture of the profile it relates to. This means that a member has posted on SDC that they are travelling and if it is in your general area (not sure how close, but looks like about 20 miles) then you are notified that they are heading your way. This message is sent to everybody in that area, so don´t get too excited – it is not specially for you, but it is a couple that are travelling to a new area where they don´t know people and are looking to meet up. Click on their profile pic, look at the bottom of their profile and you will see their travel plan where they say exactly where they are visiting and what they are looking for. If you think it is a good fit… write and say hello.
You can turn these travel notifications on or off in the settings (cog) / notifications section of the site.

You can also go to the main Explore section of the website and click on Travel Plans and see the whole list of people coming to your area. It is sorted by distance & by date, but it can be confusing at the beginning.  So if you are in London, there may be 3 profiles coming to your area that are staying one mile away from you – it will show the couple coming next week, then the couple coming next month, and then the couple coming in 3 months. If there is a couple that are visiting tomorrow, but the location is two miles away from you, then they will be 4th on the list because you are now looking at couples more than one mile away. You can filter this page by clicking on Options (top right) and see couples, females, or males.  

2. Outbound travellers (you are going out into the big wide world…)

 The opposite situation is where you are going to be away on holiday, or having a naughty weekend, or whatever, and you would like to meet people while you are away. 
You can post your own travel plan that will be sent to all the people in your destination city (assuming they have that notification turned on – most people do seem to have it set to ´yes´). To create a travel plan, go to the main Explore section on the left side of the screen, pick Travel Calendar, and in the top right of your screen is the Options button (with three vertical dots). Click on this and select Post Travel Plan and you will need to put in your destination and up to 250 characters about what you are looking for. Have a look at other people´s travel plans to see the sort of thing that they write, but it is usually things like ´In London for a long weekend & looking to meet sophisticated couples for a drink and dinner & hopefully a whole lot more xx´. 
Do take care to get the travel plan correct the first time (if possible). Sometimes the same travel plan is sent out 4 or 5 times as people correct dates, change the wording, etc & nobody much wants to get 5 travel plans from the same person – if you are going to a popular place like London, New York, or Cap d´Agde etc then your mail attempts are all being sent to hundreds (possibly thousands) of people.

7. Speed dating

 

While travel plans can be entered months and even years ahead, speed dating is used by people for arranging meetings in the next couple of weeks. Go to the Explore section and click on Speed Dating and you will see all the people that are interested in meeting in your area in the next 2 weeks. You can filter it by distance and by date, and people will generally put up a small piece of text saying what they are looking for. Using the Options button (top right) you can filter by couples, women, and men and you can also tick the ´Latest´ button and it will sort the list into the newest dates first so you can see any new posts that have arrived recently.

If you unexpectedly find yourself free on a Saturday night, you can put up a speed date and see if anybody else is also free & interested in meeting up. Just go into the Speed Dating option, hit new, and fill in the details. In some countries, this is a very heavily used feature – the Netherlands loves it – but in other places it is a little bit more hit & miss. But it takes about one minute to fill in the details and who knows where it might lead.

8. Parties and Clubs

 

In the Explore section is an item called Parties / Clubs where you can see all the events happening in your area. You can see commercial club nights, and also private parties held by individuals. There are guest lists shown so that you can see who is going, but do bear in mind that many of these public parties do not require payment up front so although a couple may say they are going to a party on Saturday, they may not actually turn up ! Guest lists can still be a good way to get in touch and introduce yourself to a couple before the party, saying that you hope to say hello if you see each other at the party.

For private parties, people have very kindly arranged an event so please do turn up if you say you are going to turn up, and if you can´t go, then let them know. The swinging world has very good communication between its members and if you keep not turning up to events that you said you would attend, you may find your invitations drying up.

Part 4 – coming in a few days…

what happens at the end of your trial period

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2 cups of coffee a month... or... unlimited sex ???

Full membership of SDC costs from £7.25 per month – about the cost of two coffees from Starbucks. Which treat would give you more pleasure ?

(If the coffee is the bigger turn on… then you may be on the wrong website!)

Trial membership leads to full membership

… but why is FULL membership so important ?

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Be ACTIVE, not passive

As a full member, you are in control and you can contact who you want and enjoy seeking out the members that interest you. Trial members cannot initiate any contact.

Be seen by ALL members

Full members can see all the other members, and all  of their photos. (Many of the full members have chosen to block trial members from seeing their profiles. Also trial members can only ever see the 1st photo of a profile)

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Gain CREDIBILITY as a full member

As a full member, you are treated as part of the community by the other full members. SDC is about trust, and full members often feel that trial members have not earned that trust yet.

Be more SUCCESSFUL

Just like in regular dating, the more brave you are the more successful you are – it helps if you make contact with others. But trial members cannot contact full members & they must wait to be contacted. (You can reply if they contact you first, but unless you look like Mr & Mrs Clooney then good luck with that one !)

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If you sign up  for the 20 day trial period, look out for an email offering you a “double time” bonus.

This bonus means that if you pay for one month, you will get another month of full membership absolutely free. The same goes for 3 months – buy 3 months and get 3 more months free … all the way up to 12 months ! Just click on the link and the time is doubled as soon as  your payment is made.

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2 cups of coffee a month... or... unlimited sex ???

Full membership of SDC costs from £7.25 per month – about the cost of two coffees from Starbucks. Which treat would give you more pleasure ?

(If the coffee is the bigger turn on… then you may be on the wrong website!)

FREE BONUS

“DOUBLE TIME” OFFER !

 

If you sign up  for the 20 day trial period, look out for an email from SDC offering you a “double time” bonus.

This bonus means that if you pay for one month, you will get another month of full membership absolutely free. The same goes for 3 months – buy 3 months and get 3 more months free … all the way up to 12 months ! Just click on the link and the time is doubled as soon as  your payment is made.

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