Top 10 sexual fantasies for women

Fantasies are completely normal and are a fun part of our imagination. Sexual fantasies for women are surprisingly not that different to sexual fantasies for men. Many people don´t share their fantasies with their partners because they feel they will be rejected or laughed at. Don´t keep them to yourself – no matter how wild they are. If you can share them with your partner, you never know… they might just become reality !

1. Threesome

This comes in two flavours – the extra person is a man or the extra person is a woman. If it´s a man then you get to experience the feeling of being spoiled completely by two gorgeous guys (often the fantasy involves his best friend). If it´s a woman, then you can indulge your bisexual side or alternatively watch your man having sex & then join in so everybody has a good time. Fantasies involving threesomes are also common with men (however it´s the FFM variation that works for them, not the FMM one !).

2. Blindfold

Sensory deprivation is a big turn on – it can be a blindfold or it can involve being tied and unable to touch anything. As one sense is taken away, the other senses are heightened and the anticipation can really add to the moment as you lie in the darkness listening to what may be about to happen. You can improvise with a scarf, stockings, etc but a blindfold can also make a delightfully naughty present to leave on her bed – we have a gorgeous lace and faux fur blindfold on our treats page… in the bondage section.

3. Filming

Making a tape of your exploits in bed may not need camera kit like this… the humble mobile phone is perfectly good at creating a memory of great sex. Just soften the lights, remove the household dross from the background and let yourselves go. Part of the excitement is the knowledge that it´s risky & you don´t have total control over the film. It´s fun to make it and great to have a sneaky peek at it at a later date – it´s bound to bring a smile to your faces !

4. Agressive sex

We can all remember the scene in 9 1/2 weeks where Mickey Rourke pins Kim Basinger against the wall and ravishes her. Many women dream of their man coming in the house, taking them with a passionate frenzy of kissing and hard love making. This is more like sex than love making – rough, heated, and aggressive.

5. Damsel in distress

This is the exact opposite of aggressive sex. The woman want to be rescued by her knight in shining armour – she is a victim in need of help or rescuing. She needs to be saved, then made love too, and told that he will never leave her & will care for her for ever. A white stallion is not strictly necessary, but makes a nice gesture and shows that the man cares.

6. Anal

The mainstream media give this a bad rap, but it is rapidly becoming a part of mainstream sexual activities. It´s not for everybody, but if you both want to explore a little then it´s vital that you learn the right way to do it – get it wrong the first time and it can put you off for ever. The three most important things to remember are lube, lube, and… lube. There will be an anal blog post on this that goes into much more detail and gives you step by step instructions on how to explore and enjoy. For the moment, please go and buy some lube – you will be glad that you did… but not as glad as she will be !

7. Swinging

The old 1970´s dinner party myth of putting your keys in a bowl and seeing who you won for the evening is well and truly dead. Many couples are now embracing the idea of meeting other couples and having sex with them – it is a mile away from the secretive lying and cheating associated with affairs. A woman can enjoy sex with her partner´s full permission and encouragement & the lipstick smear she finds on his shirt collar gives her a little smile as she remembers the night they all had. We have a whole section on the me time you time website devoted to swinging – click here to read all about it.

8. Masturbation

Given that everybody in the entire world masturbates, it has become a very private activity. Many women love the fantasy of masturbating at the same time as their partner is doing the same. It brings feelings of closeness and connectedness between the couple. Masturbation can also be used as a tease where the man has to watch the woman play with herself, but he is not allowed to touch her (or himself).

9. BDSM

Since 50 Shades was unleashed on the world, BDSM has featured highly in women´s fantasies. It is domination by your partner – being restricted and told clearly what to do & how to do it. Women love the idea of being totally submissive to their partner´s instructions and desires – but it must always be remembered that the control always remains with the submissive… she is choosing to allow this and the safe word always means stop. You can start to dabble in this world by buying an introductory couples kit and our favourite is the Fifty Shades10 Days Bondage Kit where you get to open a different window each day to reveal 10 different toys.

Don´t forget that this fantasy can work both ways and women also fantasise about being the dominant partner – a dominatrix.

10. Stranger sex

NSA (no strings attached) sex with a stranger. A typical fantasy involves a woman going to a bar alone, locking eyes with a stranger, and as she leaves he follows her out to the carpark & has hot, intense sex with her and then he leaves. She doesn´t know his name, who he is, or anything about him & she will never see him again.

11. We know… we said there would be 10 fantasies

…but women have so many fantasies that here are a few more to mention ! Participating in an orgy, role playing (think doctor & patient / teacher & pupil, etc), swinging, stripping, sex in unusual locations (lifts, carparks, beaches, workplaces, etc – basically anywhere risky), and food (think melted chocolate drizzled on naked bodies & licked off)

Embrace your fantasies and definitely don´t keep them to yourself. You don´t have to jump in at the deep end – if you want to try a threesome then find some suitable porn and start a conversation about whether it turns your partner on… just explore the ideas and take it from there. Many people have the same sorts of fantasies so the chances are that your partner may well have had exactly the same ideas but has never told you !