the main swinging websites
BEST Alternatives to Fabswingers.com
In the UK, Fabswingers.com has the most members and is also one of the cheapest swingers websites.
Fabswingers dominates the UK swinging scene but is it actually the best, or are there better alternative websites ? Here are a couple of the sites like fabswingers… send us a comment if you have more suggestions.
Alternative 1 – SDC
SDC is one of the original swingers websites and is still going from strength to strength. It has a sophisticated & international membership and is the favourite swinging website of many UK, European & US swingers.
It is great for use in your home country to arrange meetings with other sexy swingers but it can also spice up your holidays with its extensive travel options.
Alternative 2 – SpicyMatch
Think of Facebook, and now think of a naughty Facebook – you basically now have SpicyMatch ! It has a younger, more modern feel than the other alternative swinging websites and is great for meeting other swingers, arranging parties, and going on swinger holidays.
SpicyMatch is biggest in Europe and South America
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Starting with Fabswingers
Fabswingers PROS & CONS
A summary of the main advantages and disadvantages of Fab swingers
Fabswingers is the biggest swingers website in the UK
Fabswingers is mahooosive ! Over 200,000 people are using it daily and that dwarfs all the other alternative swinging websites in the UK.
Fabswingers is free to join
Unlike most “free” sites that are not really usable unless you spend some money, Fabswingers can be used properly for free (and most people are doing just that !). If you pay a small amount (from £5 for 60 days for silver membership) then you unlock a couple of useful features like being able to see who viewed your profile, or who is nearby that fits your criteria (free members just see all people nearby).You can message everybody, search for people using filters (age, etc), sent winks to say hello, etc, etc.
Initial verification is very thorough & strong
Fabswingers pride themselves on policing the new members to avoid fake profiles. You need to write Fabswingers on a sheet of A4 and also your username & then take a selfie showing your faces – this is sent to the Fabswingers admin team who then switch on your profile. This image is only kept internally – you do not need to have a face picture on the public part of the site.
Fab has very active chats, forums, & video
Yes Fab has a lot of members, but they are also very active members. The chatrooms are a real hive of activity – we just had a look and there are over 300 members on the video chats as we write this page. There is also a very active set of forums that is split into swinging advice, sexy stories, clubs, locations, and every othjer topic you can think of. The members are also very happy to send out winks, messages, friend requests, and to show their appreciation for your photos.
Are there too many single men on Fabswingers ?
The general opinion seems to be YES ! Single men dominate Fabswingers and many of them are far too over-eager and behave in a way that does not help their cause. A quick look on our phone showed 63% of profiles near us are from single men & sometimes it feels even higher than that.
However, if you are a couple looking for single guys then this is the site for you (so please put this in the ´pros´pile !)
Are the Fabswingers members reliable ?
We mean “do the members turn up to meetings”, not “are their members reliable & in good working order” !
Sadly, many people say that the number of people who cancel at the last minute, or don´t even show up at all, is far too high. Many people are looking at alternatives to Fabswingers to try to find more reliable swingers. We have certainly found SDC members to be far more reliable than Fabswingers members in our own personal meets.
Can I use Fabswingers to plan meets abroad ?
Fabswingers is very much a UK based swingers website – you cannot specify your location abroad on your profile. In the forums people will post a message saying they are going to Cap d´Agde on 20th August and others will reply with their own dates but it is hardly a world-class international system !
You can use the “who is nearby” to see the nearest 10 people when you are away, but that´s it unless you pay for Silver or Gold.
Will I be treated like a delicate princess ?
Fabswingers communications and images tend to be fairly clear and to-the-point. Don´t come here looking for poetry and delicate prose – you will be left in no doubt if somebody likes your profile. For some members, this dirty talk is exactly what they love most, but for others it is definitely a negative.
Is there a Fabswingers App for the mobile ?
No – the Fabswingers site is quite old fashioned (but it is also very simple & easy to navigate) and this means that it is still only available as a website. You can still access the website via a browser on your phone & it works fine, but there is no app.
SDC – an alternative to fabswingers
Alternative site #1 – SDC.com
SDC at a Glance
SDC appeals to couples, single women and single men. The vast majority of members are couples.
Over 3 million members, majority in USA, Netherlands, and English speaking Europe.
A free 20 day trial allows you to play with 95% of the SDC website so you can decide if SDC is the swingers site that suits you.
When compared to many swingers websites, SDC has very few fake profiles, and the site managers take active steps to keep the membership genuine and well-behaved.
Our experience is that SDC has a more sophisticated & more international membership base, and people actually turn up when they say they will & also they look like their pictures ! Not something that happens on all dating websites.
You can contact other SDC members directly during your trial period.
Navigating round the site is not the easiest – there are lots of menu options and it takes a little getting used to.
There is a great SDC mobile APP that you can use on your swinger vacations, or just when you are out & about. It also shows you who is nearby !
SDC is more than just a swingers dating site. It also has lots of advice on how to swing, sexual health, travel, education, LGBTQ+, and much more.
Free 20 day trial PLUS our insider guide to create the perfect profile.
SpicyMatch – another alternative to Fab
SpicyMatch at a Glance
SpicyMatch mainly appeals to couples. Members tend to be younger and also at the start of their swinging exploration.
12,000 visitors to the site per month – members are mostly European (UK & a lot of Italians) and also South American.
A free 30 day trial allows you to play with 95% of the site so you can decide if SpicyMatch is the swingers site that suits you.
When compared to many swingers websites, SpicyMatch has very few fake profiles, and the site managers take active steps to keep the membership genuine and well-behaved. Much cheaper rates if you provide photo verification.
SpicyMatch members are good at communicating – they are younger, keen to meet, and ready to find out more.
You can contact other SpicyMatch members directly during your trial period.
If you know Facebook, then you will find SpicyMatch very familiar ! Navigating round the site feels like playing with a naughty Facebook.
There is a great Spicy mobile APP that you can use on your swinger vacations, or just when you are out & about. It also shows you who is nearby &, if you want to, you can make yourself visible for 10 mins, an hour, or forever !
Free 30 day trial PLUS our insider guide to create the perfect profile.
Get our free insider guide to SDC and a free 20 day trial
does size matter ?
How big are these swinging websites ?
Sites like Fabswingers, SDC and all have a large number of members, which is essential. Just like a regular dating site, swingers websites need a lot of people to choose from. They all also have a great swinging website / swingers app experience.
From the stats below, you can see that Fabswingers clearly dominates in size terms, but as we all know… it´s not always about size ! Of course, quality or quirk matters more to most of us. In conclusion, if you want to meet swingers, all of these alternatives have a good database of members.
UK action-oriented swingers website
Members : Fabswingers claims that 200,000+ people use it daily.
Traffic : Fabswingers has 2,000,000 visits a month !
Fabswingers is huge, partly because it is mostly free.
International swinging site
Members : SDC claim to have over 3,000,000 members in 100 countries.
Traffic : SDC has 46,000 visits a month
SDC is a big, well-established player with a big following.
European swinging site
Members : SpicyMatch don´t disclose this.
Traffic : SpicyMatch has 12,000 visits per month.
SpicyMatch is smaller but still attracts a good crowd.
What types of members join each swinging site ?
If you are after wham-bam basic sex, then Fabswingers is probably a better fit. For a more subtle and international crowd then SDC may offer a better choice of members. SpicyMatch has a younger vibe with a more party / social media feel.
Of course all websites have a mix of members, but each website has its own ´crowd´.
At its most basic, in the ratio of men to women, Fabswingers is certainly dominated by single men. To give you a typical example, we just looked up the nearest couples online for Fab swingers & for the swingers date club SDC. Obviously this is only a snapshot but it fits with what we generally see on the two websites – see the results in the panels below.
UK action-oriented swingers website
Fab is a site that is most definitely action orientated. It is a real British swingers community, and is very active. There is a busy fab forum with lots of swinger chat – and also any other topic that you fancy !
However it is dominated by single males and also many of the photos / descriptions are fairly basic and graphic. So Fabswingeers is not for the faint-hearted !
Just now, we looked at who is nearby and Fab showed 14 single males, 7 couples, and 1 transvestite (so 63% were single men)
Wham, bam, thankyou ma´am !
International swinging site
Predominantly couples, mostly professionals, and well travelled. This also means of course that if you are looking for local swingers you will find them there too. We have found that SDC is more subtle, more communicative, and more sophisticated than the other websites so tends to also attract more elite swingers. So if a posh orgy is what tickles your fancy, this could get you your ticket !
In fact, to be fair, it covers the full spectrum of swingers from first time swinging, soft to hard swinging, interracial swingers, or more mature swinger couples, and lots more. So it’s worth checking out, if you are also exploring and developing !
Looking nearby on SDC, its Laidar function showed 3 single men, and 15 couples ( so 16% were single men).
SDC is subtle and sophisticated and great for Europe, UK & USA.
European swinging site
SpicyMatch has a more modern and youthful feel to it so it attracts a younger crowd.
Tends to be similar to SDC but less UK, based so mostly dominated by Italian & South American couples. They organise many parties in Cap d´Agde, etc and they have a lot of members that say they are just starting to swing or are “exploring”.
SpicyMatch is more young and fun, European, and better for beginners
money money money
are free swinging websites better than paid sites ?
Our honest opinion is that you get what you pay for, and if by our own experiences we think you don’t get good value (like with some clubs or parties) then we won’t be afraid to tell you too. When it comes to swinger websites, though, we think the more expensive swinging sites are great value for money. As with anything in life, a business has to make its money from somewhere, and if you aren’t paying for it through a membership fee then somehow the business has to use you to make its money.
Mostly free swingers website
Fabswingers is free for a lot of it, but of course you have to pay for the best bits you really want, such as ´who just looked at my profile?´. Payment is currently £5 for 60 days of silver membership ( about £30 per year), and is £5 for 35 days of gold membership ( about £50 pounds a year).
Premium swinging site
SDC costs about £7.25 per month which is about £87 per year if you take out an annual subscription, and has a great deal for life time membership. Sign up to a trial membership with our code and you will also get a double time bonus period i.e. you pay for 3 months and you get another 3 months more for free ! You can also get a 20 day free trial of SDC and we’d advise signing up for at least 3 months to get a good feel for the full membership. If you get the double bonus, it’s better to go for longer ( 6 mths or more) to really get the best financial benefits.
Premium swinging site
is about £40 per year if you have an official validation (and £85 if you don´t). SpicyMatch have a similar system to the Joyclub german website where you download a form, add your details, and have a photo taken of you holding the form. Spicy then have a quick video cam call a few days later and this whole verification process helps to weed out the fakes & time wasters (and saves you a whole heap of money !)
where on earth ?
Local, National, and International swingers sites ?
In our research (and we don’t mean just the practical work – don’t we just love our life !!!), we have found the biggest swinger numbers tend to be American of course, then German swingers, then French swingers, then British. There’s a lot more to France than just Paris and Cap D’Agde. So, if you think the British scene is big, go further and have fun.
The UK, the whole UK and nothing but the UK
Fabswingers is almost exclusively British (not really possible to put in locations outside the UK)
It may not have the global reach, but it dominates the UK in sheer numbers.
Swinging all over the world
SDC is very international (USA & Netherlands are the biggest, and then the UK is third largest).
Great for Europe, UK and USA and for when you travel abroad.
European swinging site
SpicyMatch is similar to SDC, in that it has an international reach (Italy, Mexico, then UK).
Cap d´Agde, cruises, and parties all over Europe
It’s not only us
what do other people think about the alternatives ?
It isn’t some generic site that’s playing on a swinger theme.
It’s made by swingers for swingers.
It gives you the chance to experience your deepest and wildest sexual desires.
adult dating patrol.com
Fabswingers vs SDC Vs SpicyMatch
We are members of all three websites and we would summarise Fabswingers as suitable for those simply looking for action and are prepared to sort through a lot of flakey people. SDC is more expensive, higher quality, and more reliable and definitely more suitable for travel. SpicyMatch is more fun, and more “social media style” – like Facebook for swingers
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