From simple drinks to exotic mansion parties
As a swinger, there are many types of swingers parties that you can attend & these range from private meetings with one other couple up to a themed ball in a castle with hundreds of people ! So, here are the various types of swinging parties and events that we have come across.
Drinks or Dinner meetings
Testing the water
At the smaller end of the scale are the drinks or dinner meetings that couples have, to meet another swinging couple and see if there is any chemistry between the four of them. Mostly couples will meet, chat, and go their separate ways with a communication afterwards by SDC mail, or text perhaps to say whether they would like to meet again.
These little parties are usually done simply to ´test the water´ and there is no commitment for anything else. For some couples this introductory meeting is an essential part of the process and allows them to get to know the other couple in a social setting and to see if there is general compatibility on a social level (it also allows you to check if the SDC photos were taken 25 years ago or if they are vaguely accurate !)
Diving straight in
Sometimes though it moves on that evening to something more intimate. A room may already be booked in or near the venue, or everyone goes back to one couple’s home if available. Other couples find the pre-meeting completely unnecessary to have at all, and prefer get down to action as soon as possible.
This highlights two of the different ways of approaching the swinging lifestyle. One group might be looking to find couples similar to themselves who will become friends with an added extra set of ´benefits´. The other group already has as many friends as they need, & they simply want to enjoy the ´benefits´ with anybody that they like the look of.
Meet and greets
There are also organised meetings for lots of couples – called ´meet and greets´. Far more common in the USA than in Europe and the UK but they are gaining in popularity. Meet and Greets are particularly popular with beginner, or first time swingers, as it the old adage implies ‘safety in numbers’ applies well to this kind of party where little effort is required to join, or dip out !
An evening is arranged in a bar / club / swinger friendly venue and an invite is sent out to all swingers in the area. It is simply a social evening to chat with other like-minded people and see who you had any connection with & would like to meet again. It gives a great chance to meet 50 potentially interesting couples ( or single men if they are invited) in your area in one evening, and also lets you say hi to people you may already know.
People will also organise small house parties where they invite around 8 to 15 couples who are picked, just like a regular dinner party, so that there is hopefully good compatibility between all the guests. Typically drinks & nibbles will be organised by the hosts and there may be swinger games planned to break the ice, but people tend to create a sexy vibe anyway – with or without encouragement from the organisers.
This type of house party is what people think of when the term ´wife swapping party´ is mentioned. Curiously, the famed keys-in-the-bowl myth where you all put your house / car keys in a bowl and you would go home with the owner of the keys you randomly picked, is not how a sex party would work at all. Swingers still have strong preferences about who they want and don´t want & they would never just leave with a random person.
´Eyes Wide Shut´ parties
At the top of the scale, both in terms of price & also impressiveness are the one-off mansion / castle / manor house parties. This type of swingers party is mostly run by events companies and they will take over a gorgeous location and create an exotic themed venue for a luxury up-scale adult sex party. They will typically have a dress up theme e.g. circus, eyes wide shut, etc and the guests will really make an effort with the outfits. Professional performers e.g. burlesque, acrobats, singers, etc will be brought in and they are aimed very much at the higher end couples looking for a sophisticated evening with sophisticated swinger couples.
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