Swinging as a couple

How does it start

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This current global pandemic is affecting all of us, and the swinging community must also behave responsibly and do all we can to stop this virus as soon as possible. This includes NO physical meetings with other swingers (obviously !).

You can still use this website to plan what you are going to do, where you are going to do it, and who you are going to do it with... WHEN the restrictions are lifted. And you can still use SDC and Fab for video chats, you can improve and update your profile & pictures, and you can also use this time to start conversations with other members so you can meet them in the future.

This is the time to stay at home and enjoy your partner, strengthen your bond with them even more, and enjoy your toys ! Once we are on the other side of this, there will be a lot of horny people ready to party & release some of that tension !

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Andy & Sarah XX, Marc & Anna XX, Kris & Zoe XX

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Most swingers are couples – but how does it start ? 


If you are new to swinging, please see our post on how to start swinging , or to go right back to the start and understand why people swing at all – click over here. Maybe we’d like to be as tan as the couple in the picture above – but you don’t need to be so young or tanned. Then again, many adventures like this start on a sexy holiday. And who knows what everyone is looking for. It can always be a pleasant surprise. That couple are probably dying to meet some equally beautifully pale northern Europeans like a few on the team here. Never say never !

Most swingers are couples & most purists would say that single people can´t be swingers, by definition. Not in real life though, click over to our single men post to see how they fit into the swinging community in reality. 

There is no doubt though that swinging couples are very common – a 2005 survey in the UK found that 25% of the population were either swinging in the UK or wanted to swing. Is that a bit high?  Or, how many people do you know could possibly be part of that statistic ! It’s definitely become even more popular to swing in the last five years.

In our experience, there is also definitely a lot more interest in expressing yourself sexually, getting more tactile, even swapping partners, and finding other ways to give ‘me time you time’ pleasures.  Many people dream of joining in. But it’s not only the stuff that dreams are made of,  so why not make it a reality for you too.

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It’s good to talk !

As a couple, you have to ensure that the views, wishes, desires, and opinions of BOTH of you are respected. In any relationship, of course there will always be times when one of you is more into it than the other. Generally it makes sense to take the lowest common denominator i.e. if one of you wants to go to a swingers club and the other person doesn´t then you should not go.


Trust, honesty, and communication are important when swinging

Swinger couples need to be totally honest with each other. Talk about what you like or don´t like, about what you liked last time or didn´t like, about what feelings this all stirs up. It´s the most amazing hobby to get you to communicate with each other, but non-communication can make it a really bad idea !


Dating chemistry

Don´t expect success to be the norm – we went into it thinking that every couple we met for a social drink would be great. After all, we had seen photos of them on SDC or SpicyMatch or Fabswingers, we had read all about them, we knew what they liked and didn´t like, we knew they liked us, we could see their swinging friends, etc, etc. But you still need that chemistry, that sexual spark, and it needs to be with ALL FOUR of you and that is quite rare to find when couple swapping. Swinger sex is by no means guaranteed, even if you really want it !

Get in the groove

To understand this world, get to know the terminology here. The in-jokes are also a bit of fun, yet all very true. They’re also a good gauge as to where you are on the scale of beginner to (s)expert ! So, how many questions can you answer yes to on the list you know you are a swinger if…

Who’s in charge ?

With married couples swinging, it is often the case that the husband suggests starting swinging, but the wife then gets the enthusiasm to really blossom sexually and takes the reins. A swinger wife tends to relish the chance to freely express her sexuality and grow in confidence & there are many men who love to watch their wife in action.

At one end of the scale, as a woman it’s just great to have some me time and feel so liberated, and free. Free to express yourself in little or big ways and not be judged. Free to act sensually or sexually, even if it’s only subtle. Beautiful lingerie, fun or sophisticated dress-up, and toys to explore and open up your sensualities help a lot !

At the other extreme, there is even a term called ´hotwife´ where the man simply enjoys watching his wife with other men & often he won´t participate at all.    For this, as a couple, you need single men ( or maybe a woman) . So click over here to get an insight to how single men operate in this swinging world.

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We can help make swinging work for you 

We are a group of libertines that know the modern naturist and sophisticated swinging world well. So we are here to help, from the inside out !

Whether it is via a treat to tickle your g spots, visiting a sexy club, joining a swinging community, or going on a tantalising holiday – we are in a great position to be able to guide you in the ´lifestyle´.

We've been there, done that - and can help you with everything from dipping your toe in the water to satisfying your fullest of fantasies.

So welcome on in !


Let us guide you through a world of simple pleasures and sexy times.  Create space and openness in your life, and have fun and fulfilment all along the way.

Andy & Sarah, Marc & Anna, Kris & Zoe

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