How to create the best online SDC swinging profile

Yes, you’re writing a dating profile !

Your words and pictures need to impress,  and make a match with the swingers you want to meet. (Think adult personals, or even swinger ads.)

Covid-19 / Corona Virus -  Important Information

This current global pandemic is affecting all of us, and the swinging community must also behave responsibly and do all we can to stop this virus as soon as possible. This includes NO physical meetings with other swingers (obviously !).

You can still use this website to plan what you are going to do, where you are going to do it, and who you are going to do it with... WHEN the restrictions are lifted. And you can still use SDC and Fab for video chats, you can improve and update your profile & pictures, and you can also use this time to start conversations with other members so you can meet them in the future.

This is the time to stay at home and enjoy your partner, strengthen your bond with them even more, and enjoy your toys ! Once we are on the other side of this, there will be a lot of horny people ready to party & release some of that tension !

Stay healthy everybody, stay safe, and let´s all give a big thank you to all those brave people that are doing their best to protect us all.

Big virtual kisses,

Andy & Sarah XX, Marc & Anna XX, Kris & Zoe XX

The words,  pictures, and actions that will make your profile successful.


We realised we have so much to say here, and it has to be presented to you at the right time. So, we have devised a little programme of information to feed you what you need, in a way you can best use it to get everything you desire!

Scroll on down to find a few wise words about this, or let us guide you in a more measured way with what we all know best. We want you to benefit from our experience, and get to the good stuff in the smoothest way possible! So, here’s what we’re giving you.



We decided to do this because every time we meet someone that isn’t on SDC,  they wished they were, but they just never got around to it ! They forget, or procrastinate, then when they start to relax on holiday, they realise they’ve been missing out !

So, we’re making it easy, and it costs nothing.

We’ve written a step-by-step guide for you to go along with a 20 day free trial of SDC.  On 6 timely days, you will be prompted with useful information about how to use the site at that point to get all the benefits, and crucially, what you need to do in order to get what you want.  So, if you would like the benefit of our experience, all 6 of us on the team have contributed. It’s taken a while to put together and we’re now quite proud and dying to share – we’re very sure it will make a difference!  I mean, what if you just get distracted again and whoosh , the trial 20 days ends and you’ve missed out again.

Nothing like this exists anywhere else, so don’t miss out !

Turbocharge your 20 trial period with our free guide to SDC.

Oodles of useful information to show you what to do to stand out.  Crucially – how to attract those people you want to connect with, and keep away those you don’t want. We’ll help you find your way around the site and make the most of it. We’ll share the unwritten rules, and secret codes – how to read profiles and how to write yours. How to take the best pictures. Different ways to say hello,  and get dates ! Finally, what happens next, and what you get and don’t get as a trial or full member.

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A picture can paint 1000 words !

Whether we like it or not, swinging is an image based hobby, and there are some general rules about what images to post ! Having said that, we admit ourselves that the more mature swingers in our writing group think they understand more about a couple by reading their words, rather than the photos that they post.

(During your free SDC trial, we will send you information on how to take and choose the best pictures for your profile.)

10 guidelines

These will get you started , and generally apply to both swinging couples and singles.

  1. Be honest – flattering photos are great but it’s also time for a reality check.
  2. Tidy up – set the scene, if you want to get to know serious swingers.
  3. Share the limelight – its not all about naked women´s bodies.
  4. Less is more – it´s not always all about big swinging tits or swinging porn pictures, holiday snaps can work too.
  5. How many swinger pictures should you show ? should you show faces or locations? Ok, if you are caravan swingers, or like beach swinging, then we will show you how to get a match there.
  6. What kind of pictures – it’s not all about naughty pictures either,  if you’re looking for new best friends on SDC.
  7. Be selective –  Do you always want to be tied up in the BDSM world? If not, then be careful with swinger niches you are portraying in your pictures.  Same thing for bi-sexual oriented girl-on-girl photos, and women kissing women etc.
  8. Choosing your main picture –  there are galleries of speed dates, travel plans, etc. so choose one that works everywhere.
  9. Private albums – a private album can show faces, niches, location, specific sexual interest like BDSM. Remember, full time members have privacy settings that don’t allow trial members to see their pictures.
  10. Your first photo – know that trial members can see your first photo (but not any other photos). As a full member, you can still stop trial members seeing any photos as far as we are aware. We can also show you ways to have private albums that are password protected.

Remember, at me time you time, we’re all in this lifestyle, writing and rooting for everyone else wanting to join.

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The 5 SDC profile sections

We will send you information on how to fill in these sections. There will also be a post about privacy coming soon, showing you how to keep your information secure on SDC.

1. Information / Statistics / Likes

Sounds easy but what do people generally do about age, weight, and body type ! It’s important to be open and honest, but try to put yourself in the reader’s shoes when they get to meet you one day too !  We have a few suggestions too, to help in these days of identity theft etc.

2. Likes & fetishes

Whao – there’s a huge list of options – but what are you prepared to admit to ! How honest should you be, and how will people interpret this.  Bi-sexuality is a big blog topic. For men, how common is bi-sexuality ? If you aren’t that way inclined, how would you feel is a man’s hand strays unintentionally in the dark. Is your wife is bi-curious,  or is it that you would like her to be ? People think all women are bi to a certain point. So what should you put on your profile to get the right attention , depending on where you are in the scale.

3. Swing status

See the list of terms / abbreviations / acronyms here. It’s very important to get it right if you want a good match.

4. Description

How would you describe yourself, and how would you write that? If you are using our free information programme to  join SDC, then once you sign up to full membership we are happy to have a quick look at your profile and give you some feedback from our team of experienced users of SDC.  We’ll let you know on the programme how to take advantage of that. Remember we only get to see your link if you alert us and are signed up as a paid member using our free SDC promo code.

5. Location

What happens when you put in your location. Do you put in the real one? more than one ?  Find out who is in your area, and see how to take advantage of dating wherever you are. What about when you are travelling, or on holiday. Check out this post about how to use SDC for travel.

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Final words of wisdom

Before we go. If you sign up properly ( i.e. pay !) you do get more of course.  We’ll explain all that at the end of the free email information programme too. Personally, we would suggest signing up for at least 3 months (about £12 a month) .  It won’t break the bank and of course we know its worth it ( and so are you !)

You might be surprised at what you get offered once you’re in even as a trial member.  Right now, ( at the time of writing ! ) a little birdie has told us that they got a fabulous offer of double your membership time for free when you go enter our free trial membership ! So grab the bull by the horns now. here’s the link to get you in

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We can help make swinging work for you 

We are a group of libertines that know the modern naturist and sophisticated swinging world well. So we are here to help, from the inside out !

Whether it is via a treat to tickle your g spots, visiting a sexy club, joining a swinging community, or going on a tantalising holiday – we are in a great position to be able to guide you in the ´lifestyle´.

We've been there, done that - and can help you with everything from dipping your toe in the water to satisfying your fullest of fantasies.

So welcome on in !


Let us guide you through a world of simple pleasures and sexy times.  Create space and openness in your life, and have fun and fulfilment all along the way.

Andy & Sarah, Marc & Anna, Kris & Zoe

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